Wednesday, July 27, 2016

Life: Ten things I learned my first year of marriage.

With my first anniversary on my brain, all I can think of is "marriage".
Marriage: The legally or formally recognized union of two partners in a relationship.
After a whole year of marriage, I can officially say that it ain't as easy as that definition sounds!


Ten things I learned my first year of marriage.

1.  You will never be happy unless you learn to compromise.
Everyone does things their own way.  It's important to recognize this and meet in the middle.
Repeat to myself: "People don't get divorced over the way your husband folds a hand towel."

2.  Get into a rhythm that works for the entire family.
Your married life will become much smoother once a daily routine is developed.
We stopped arguing over who will do what once we got our life's tasks down to a science.

3.  At least once a month, break the rhythm and get crazy.
The spontaneous Tuesday date night throwing our entire routine out of whack is what we live for.
The routine keeps the peace and periodically breaking it keeps the happiness alive.

4.  It's cheaper to be married.
Things like car insurance, cell phone bills, and health insurance become way cheaper.
I was pleasantly surprised with this one.  I was thinking "times 2" instead of "group discount"!

5.  You gain another family, not just a bunch of in laws.
I was blessed with my husband's amazing family, but I was ignorant to how deep you get sucked in.
After our wedding, I was suddenly involved in all the happy moments, gossip, and drama!

6.  A spouse is not always your biggest cheerleader.
While we are typically supportive of each other, there have been times we flat out disagreed.
Being married means constant support, but it also means a very honest opinion.

7.  You will probably change as a person and it's totally OK.
As hard as you will try not to, you will probably change while adapting to your new life.
I've become more responsible, a yucca connoisseur,  and adopted gardening as a new hobby!

8.  The need to constantly impress will eventually dissipate.
 Things like getting dolled up to buy milk and wearing 6 inch heels to work will become unimportant.
I mean, now that I found my man that pair of 3 inch heels will totally do!

9.  Money is both heaven and hell.
You will always have a need for more money, but it will also be the thing you fight about most.
I'm the queen of budgeting and yet we still manage to find $10 to argue over!

10.  Becoming someone's spouse doesn't make you a judge.
It's all good to give an opinion when appropriate, but don't judge every move they make.
My husband and I are both guilty of this one, but we're working on it!

What did you learn your first year of marriage?

7 comments:

  1. I've always thought number 8 was true

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  2. Communication is key. I'm still working on that one 30 years of marriage later.

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  3. Divorce over a hand towel might make good trashy tv though lol never knew it was cheaper for cellphones.

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  4. It's only cheaper to be married if both people work.

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  5. Nailed it. All so true. It is funny how you are instantly family once you are married according to in-laws. I felt like i was accepted and roped-in as much as possible. Then we made it official and it's even more so, it's awesome. I love his family too so it's great. Compromise is a lifeline with marriage, there is no doubt about that. And yes, money - always a topic of discussion. Like you - I love all of those discounts too!!!

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  6. Thanks for the wonderful learning. And agree with all the points.

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