I recently read a book called The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin.
It was an enlightening read, but it was more of a “how to” than a juicy story with a moral.
While this book may not have had me on the edge of my seat, it did get me thinking.
Am I really happy? Maybe I’m content, but how can I be overjoyed? Is my family happy?
That’s when I realized that we, as a society, are thinking way too much into such a simple concept.
Everywhere I turn there is a new article on “how to know he/she/wife/husband/dog is happy”.
I think that analyzing and worrying about your happiness will actually have a reverse effect.
No worries, Jax is going to make this whole “happiness” thing real simple for you!
Ten simple ways to just be happy.
1. Don’t measure your happiness.
If you need to stop and think if you’re actually happy or how happy you are, you’re not that happy.
Happiness is enjoying the moment and the people around you without outside distractions.
A happy moment is something you will remember and reflect on as a pleasant memory without doubt.
2. Surround yourself with only people you genuinely enjoy.
You know whose company you look forward to and whose company you dread.
Eliminate the people from your life that you consider toxic or just bring you down.
Being around that one person you dislike can turn a nice event into a horror show. Cut him/her out!
3. Don’t be a bystander and be involved.
Being happy means getting involved, having fun, and enjoying the moments life gives you.
Get up and dance. Pick up the art brush. Taste the new foods. Play the game.
You totally get the point. Don’t be the person lurking in the corner envying the people doing something.
4. Realize the world doesn’t owe you squat.
Some people have this false perspective that the world owes them happiness.
You need to make your own happiness. It won’t fall into your lap. You need to go and get it.
The world isn’t dishing out vacations, boyfriends, or nights out on the town? Go get them yourself!
5. Fill your day with things you enjoy.
Your work days should be filled with the tasks of a career that you love.
Your free time should be filled with people, events, and things that you love.
If you aren’t content with large aspects of your life, these are the first things you need to change.
6. Don’t live in the past.
We all have those days or years that were filled with misery. Stop reliving them in your head.
These were experiences or people that helped you learn and grow. Leave it at that and move on.
Living in the past makes people fear the future. No one can be happy that way.
7. Cherish your body as your biggest treasure.
Be healthy. Don’t do drugs. Don’t sleep around. Wear sunscreen. Let it rest and recharge.
Your body is the most important tool you have in life. Preserving it is preserving happiness.
There are so many unfortunate events in life that can’t be prevented. Limit these opportunities.
8. Accept yourself for everything that you are.
We all have insecurities, but we should never let them get in the way of our lives or happiness.
Wear that bikini. Dance without rhythm. Snort when you laugh. Rock those frizzy curls.
Hiding insecurities or missing out because of them will always hinder your happiness.
9. Celebrate all of your achievements.
Not all of your achievements need to be huge in order for you to be proud of them.
You may not have graduated yet, but you passed that nearly impossible class. Celebrate it!
Celebrating and acknowledging an accomplishment will bring happiness and create memories.
10. Laugh. Smile. Enjoy.
You may not want to go somewhere or do that thing, but you’re obligated to anyway.
Don’t pout and be miserable. Instead laugh with people, smile at the day, and enjoy what you can.
Happiness is all about your outlook on something. Intend to be happy and it may just happen.
How do you do happiness?