As a follow up to Friday's post, I'd like to discuss popular red flags daters should look out for.
These lunch break conversations are proof that I wasn’t the only one to witness these warnings.
They are also proof that I wasn’t alone when I made an excuses and ignored these signs of danger.
My co-workers and I find comfort comparing notes and seeing the similarities.
Together we were able to make a mental list of everything they should be aware of in the dating world.
The men even joined in on the conversation, making it a real good learning experience.
Luckily for all of you, I transcribed our mental notes. Don’t ever say Jax didn’t warn you!
Common red flags to be aware of while dating.
1. They only talk about them self.
A date is supposed to be time spent to get know each other, not just one of you.
Sure you could say he/she’s just nervous, but chances are they’re just selfish.
Don’t want to heed my warning? Go on date #2 and see if they start to ask you questions!
2. They never initiate conversation.
A person who is interested in you wants to talk to you.
They will call you to see how you are or send you a simple text to let you know you’re on their mind.
You think they’re so busy that they can’t spare a minute? Someone who likes you will make time for you.
3. They constantly mention their ex.
Someone who is looking for a future should not be stuck in the past.
They may be looking for a distraction or even a rebound. Either way, stay away!
Talking about your ex is normal? You aren’t their therapist and you don’t care about their past problems!
4. They constantly bash their ex.
As if mentioning their ex isn’t bad enough, you don’t want someone so burned that they’re trash talking.
It’s an obvious red flag that they are not over the situation and that they have no respect for others.
You’re happy that they hate their ex THAT much? Think again because they could be trashing you next.
5. They don’t respect their family.
How a person treats the people closest to them is a direct reflection on how they will treat you.
I understand that unknown circumstances may or may not exist, but there should always be respect.
You aren’t their family so it doesn’t matter? Just wait until you find yourself being treated the same way!
6. They are always talking about money.
While financial stability is very important, you don’t want a man that hides behind his cash.
People typically talk excessively about something they’re overly proud of or insecure about. Both stink.
You like the money topic? It’ll be great until they’re throwing it in your face or too cheap to spend it!
7. They are always referencing sex.
Everybody likes to feel attractive, but there is a fine line between wanting you and using you.
You’re so much more than a sex object. You have ideas, hobbies, and a BRAIN!
You like the dirty talk? Test them and see if they are capable of a regular conversation.
8. They are always on their phone.
While on a date, you deserve that person’s full attention.
Either they have someone else they’d rather talk to, or they’re just inconsiderate.
It’s no big deal? Well, yea it kind of is a HUGE deal that they’re dating an inanimate object.
9. They are really private.
Everyone deserves a certain amount of privacy, but if their life is a giant black hole then run!
People who have secrets usually have something to hide, and that secret may be a wife.
That’s just who they are? Yea, find someone whose life is open enough for you to learn!
10. They ditch you on the regular.
This one KILLS me. If someone sets up a date and time to meet you, then they should show up.
If they got sick or got called into work, they will let you know, apologize, and reschedule!
They just happened to fall asleep? Yea, um, NO!