A couple of weeks back, my best friend and her man decided to move in together.
Yes, you did just hear an EEP and the sound of a seal clap. What? I’m happy for them!
They are a great couple that seem to have each other’s best interests at heart.
I know that this is just one more step in their lengthy, happy relationship together.
My man and I have been living together for three
While there are certainly some perks to making this step, some things just stink about it.
Sometimes I wish I listened to Madre’s warnings and was proactive in avoiding arguments.
Well, it doesn’t matter now because the arguments happened and we learned from them. Right?!
Ten Things To Discuss Before Living With Your Partner.
1. Personal Space
Make sure that you have a clear definition of each other’s personal space.
If you claim that area of the closet, it is not acceptable for it to be taken over by someone else.
If an argument ensues and he/she closes the bedroom door, leave the door closed until they’re ready.
There is nothing worse than feeling trapped and like you can’t escape to clear your mind.
2. Morning Routines
Prior to waking up for work, discuss the best morning routine that’s convenient for both.
Take into account what time each of you needs to be at work and your morning “musts”.
If you have similar schedules, be considerate of the other person and don’t hog the bathroom.
As a lady, I take a significant amount of time to do my hair. That means I get the shower first!
There are a lot of finances necessary for funding a living space.
Make sure it’s clear who is paying for what and how much they should contribute.
Don’t forget to take into account things like food, cable, or even household necessities.
In my situation, it was best to just combine all incomes and expenses. Make a budget and plan ahead!
4. Eating Habits
People have different expectations when it comes to eating.
When you live with someone, they may expect to eat dinner with you regularly.
Discuss eating plans that make both of you happy. Maybe cook five nights a week and take out twice.
This was rough for us because I love vegetables and my man is a downright carnivore. Compromise, people!
5. Combining Your Things
When two people are moving into one space, there is bound to be lots and lots of doubles.
Decide which pieces of furniture you plan to keep and whose set of towels will make the cut!
Some people find it easier just to start out fresh and slowly make new purchases that fit both tastes.
Just, please, don’t throw away your things. Donate the lightly used items and sell the valuables.
6. Living Location
Before even considering living together, make sure you’re both on the same page for a location.
Perhaps one person needs to stay in their living space because it’s closer to work or family.
Discuss the best options. Maybe you both need to pack and move to a whole new space!
I was sort of stubborn with this one, but luckily my man was lenient.
7. Annoying Habits
We all have habits that we love but others find absolutely obnoxious.
Maybe you like to utilize the bedroom floor as your laundry hamper or sleep with the light on.
Instead of dealing with it until you explode, talk it out with your partner until it’s resolved.
My friends text me at all hours of the night and drive my man NUTS. Resolution: Silence the phone.
As you continue to reside in the same home, you will develop a routine. I promise!
Despite that, you must make a chore plan prior to moving in together in order to avoid a fight.
Decide who will do the dishes, take out the garbage, clean the bathroom, or make the bed.
Turns out my man cleans great and quick! That means I fold laundry, cook dinner, and pay the bills.
9. Be Guest Conscious
Do not invite guests over before checking with your partner.
Perhaps they already made plans or maybe they just aren’t in the mood to entertain.
Either way, it’s important to be considerate when making plans or inviting guests.
I love to entertain, but I rely on my man to help. I learned real quick to ask and then invite!
Please, for the love of God, do NOT forget to communicate. Things that you think don’t matter, do.
If you’re staying late at work, shoot a text. If you’re sick and don’t want to be bothered, say so.
If you plan on making a huge purchase that will affect the budget, give your partner a heads up.
This was real rough for us because we were so independent. We’re working on it though!
What do you think is important to discuss before moving in together?