When you first start dating somebody it’s common to feel insecure.
I know I do. Suddenly I hate my hair, want to lose a few pounds, and decide I need a new wardrobe!
I always thought that these insecurities were typically a girl thing with very few men in between.
Turns out I was wrong.
Newsflash Ladies: Men are just as insecure as we are.
I’m not sure why I’m so happy about this, but this fact makes me feel a little better!
The problem with being insecure is, women are attracted to confident men.
When we are with a guy who exudes confidence it sort of rubs off on us.
I mean, if a man is really confident then he must be confident in his decision to take me out. Right? Right?!
After talking to a few of the men in my life, I came up with a list of ways for men to “fake” confidence.
10 Ways for a Man to Fake Confidence on a First Date
The best way to feel confident is to properly groom yourself.
If you’re looking good then you’ll feel just as good.
Get a fresh haircut, make sure your clothes are neat, and make sure that you’re smelling good!
It’s nice when you share similar views with someone, but to agree with everything is near impossible.
If you are seconding everything that I say, I’m going to think that you don’t have a mind of your own.
It’s never bad to express your own opinion. When it’s done in a friendly manner, no one can be insulted.
8. Voice Volume
Mumbling can be taken as a sign of insecurity. Yelling can also be viewed as insecure or overcompensating.
Keep the volume of your voice to a reasonable tone and talk in a way that you always do.
Unless you are Italian. We can’t help but yell. We don’t even know that we’re doing it!!
Keeping an eye on the clock or the door means that you want to leave.
You’re showing your date that you’re either insecure and ready to run or you’re not interested.
We’re out! For the love of God, just enjoy it!!!
6. Critical Thinking
Don’t sit there and pick apart every little thing. Enjoy the moment and don’t worry about the flaws.
When you are picking apart your personality, a previous date, or even a conversation we are left questioning.
Most of the time these critical thinkers bring things to my attention that I would never think of! Stop it!!
If you’re not sure that your breathe is fresh, then you’re going to be keeping your distance.
Keeping your distance could be misread for insecurities or lack of interest.
Men, brush those teeth and gargle with Listerine!! Also, steer clear of stinky foods for the night, please!!
Putting everyone around you down is a sign that you’re insecure of yourself.
Try and remain positive to reinforce positive thinking.
I mean, who wants to sit with a bully or a Debbie downer anyways? Not Jax…
3. Eye Contact
When a man can’t keep eye contact with me it’s never a good sign.
The fact that you’re talking to me and looking down either means you’re lying or that you’re intimidated.
Too insecure to look me in the eyes? Fake it and stare at my eyebrows. I’ll never know!!
Avoid asking your date a billion questions. Nobody wants to be questioned like they are on trial for murder.
Keep the questions appropriate and to a minimum. Too many questions are a key to insecurities.
I mean, do you really want to know how many men she’s dated anyways? It’ll just feed it more!
1. Be You
As cliché as this sounds, make sure that you are your normal self.
Pretending to be something else is unnatural. We could tell and sniff that insecurity from a mile away!
Besides, acting different to impress a date is lying. Don’t try to trick a woman into wanting to be with you.
How do you try and act confident on a date?