Monday, July 2, 2012

JaxStory: Violated!

Today I have a Jax Story for you guys!
Psh, I know you all love those!!

Last week I was yapping on the phone with my cousin, while TheLoveBug was getting pumped with fuel.
Once she was all filled up, I turned around to put my card back in bag and continue my phone conversation.
My cousin was on speakerphone and we're both real loud.  It was no secret that I was on the phone.

When I picked my head back up I noticed a half dressed man lurking in my car window.
He was a middle aged man that had creeper written across his forehead.
Ok, so maybe not literally written on his forehead...

Startled, I flinched and pointed to the phone.
That's when Mr.Creeper leaned in even closer, with his head practically in my car window.

Creeper: "So, tell me, are you really this beautiful or is it just the car?"
For the record, it's totally the car.  My little LoveBug is a looker!
Me:  "Dude, I'm on the phone."
Creeper:  "It's definitely you.  The car is no competition to you, gorgeous"
Me:  "Get away from my car.  Now."
Meanwhile, my cousin is screaming asking what the hell was going on!!!!!

That's when the creep completely leaned into my vehicle and outstretched his arm.
He took his fingers and ran them through my hair.
I almost died.
I screamed profanities and pleas for help that I just got molested!!
Just as quick, I put the car in drive and sped away.
The creep got freaked out and jumped into his assumed friend's trunk to hide.
Ok, so it was an SUV, but SUV or not it's still a damn trunk!!!!

I should have called the police.
I should have ran into the gas station market.
I should have specifically asked a nearby person for help.
Instead, I totally panicked and let this freakshow get away with what he did.
I mean, who does that?!?!?!?!  It's so not ok to touch anyone, ever.

Have you ever experienced a stranger totally crossing the line?
...and did you react a little better than I did?  I hope so...

86 comments:

  1. What? I am shocked. Bad neighborhood? or did anyone jump from behind with a huge microphone and yelled "you are punked?"
    This scared me.

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    1. Right??? Like, who does that?!?!?!?!??! I thought it was a game show too. But, hey, I'm glad it was just my hair. What a FREAK... Sigh... That's NY for you!!! And, no, it was not a bad neighborhood. It was where I live!!!

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    2. I wish I had naked creepers lurking around my block, it would make my life much more sitcom worthy...

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    3. Well, he wasn't fully naked thank you Jesus!!!!!! He was only topless and wearing very short shorts!! He was nothing to look at though, trust me Dez!! lol

      But...we do have flashers around here. If you ever come to NY, I can make sure to direct you to a place where you are guaranteed a flash. hahahahahahaha

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    4. ;) Glad I could make you laugh!

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    5. Real scary. I have had my episodes of slapping guys hard and pushing them to ground, but that was in India, the guys are chickens and usually shrivel if a woman fights back.

      Here other than some occasional mini-stalking or yelling or panhandling havent experienced anything bad but the neighborhood was bad whenever this happened.

      And yeah, all these happened when I was in NY. :(

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  2. You know, as long as you didn't get molested or hurt, it sounds like you did the right thing. We can't all stop and be clear-headed when someone like that is doing something really creepy, and the sad truth is that if you called the police, by the time they got there he would have been long gone and the police would do absolutely nothing to follow up on it.

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    1. Thanks! Yes, I suppose you are right. It could have been 10,000x worse and the police probably wouldn't have done squat anyways. Oh well, at least I would have felt better. Maybe the jerk would have stayed in the trunk long enough for the popo to show!!!

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  3. So sorry that happened to you! Awful. No matter how small a touch, you still feel violated. I was grabbed a lot in Honduras...hair, breast, between my legs. It was terrible. They would do it while walking past me and just keep going, but it still upset me every time. Even here in the States, I give men a wide berth when walking past them, because I don't know what they're going to do. Once it's happened, you realize how vunerable you are. You handled it well, by yelling and taking off.

    Have you ever taken a self-defense course? I haven't, but know that I should. Just having a little bit of extra preparation for what to do would help, I'm sure.

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    1. Omg, that's AWFUL!!! They just grab you in the street and you keep walking? Isn't there anything you could do like call some sort of law enforcement? Do you have any sibblings that can chaperone you and bring about a beat down?

      Girl, I don't know how you dealt with that! I totally get why keep yourself at a far distance when walking past men. That must also effect your relationships or potential relationships a little bit as well.

      No, I have never taken a self defense course although a few of the men in my life did teach me how to deliver a pretty strong punch. I was also trained to always walk to the car with my car key stuck out to use as a weapon. All else fails, use your stilleto heel or knee right in the huevos.

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    2. Honduran men are very 'macho' and a lot of them do not have respect for women like many men do in the United States. Normally, the men that wanted to make a fuss just shouted things at me, but every now and then, one of them would decide he need to grab me. It was hard to tell if it was a game to scare me, or if they just did it because they wanted to and could. And the law enforcement in a place like that is a joke.

      I was often told I shouldn't be walking around by myself, but it is hard to give in to that when you grow up in the United States and are used to being so independent. Plus, with my job, I often didn't have much choice.

      I don't mean to come off melodramatic, because it really was a small part of my otherwise awesome experience there. I just wanted you to know that you have every right to feel violated by just a simple, unwanted touch.

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  4. That is major creepy! Ugh. I probably would have panicked and high tailed it out of there, too.

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    1. Righttt??? What a jerk!!!!! Glad to hear that someone else would have done the same thing as me. My mother didn't seem to think that I handled it all that well...

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  5. LOVE his pick up line- Are you really that beautiful or is it just the car? Who compares a woman to a car?????? You did the right thing speeding off. Wish you could have run over his foot or something. LOL

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    1. lol That's a pick up line? Oh my!! How awful...hahahaha

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  6. Once upon a time, a stranger looked at me and just went. It was a woman who gazes me like criminal, but I just went my way because if I did someting, I would be in trouble...

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    1. Why would you have gotten in trouble??

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    2. I'm sure that you wouldn't get in trouble for approaching a girl that you gave you the go ahead as long as you are respectful!

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  7. you know, Jaxy sister, it becomes clear to us now that you might suffer from a case of being a creep/privatemaniac magnet :) There must be something in you that attracts them.... maybe something of the dominatrix vibe which most of them like? :PPPP

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    1. LOL now you sound like my g/f, Peaches!! She's always telling me that I attract the crazies. I must give off some vibe or scent that drives the freakshows nuts!!!

      Dominatrix vibe? Oh, well maybe I should stop carrying around that whip!! lol

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    2. It's simply because she's pretty darling.

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    3. well, she did attract the biggest of them all - the ebil cat,didn't she? I find that worrisome :)

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    4. @Anne...aww, you made me blush!! But, I'm not sure if attracting creepers is a good thing.. lol

      @Dez...LOL Grouping the poor kitty cat with a hair groper?? Ouch!!!

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  8. JAX!!!!! Damn, didn't you recognize me????? That's the last time I goof around with your ass.

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    1. Bama, I should have known that was you!!!!

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    2. I would have taken a WHOOOOOLE different approach. I would have flattened your tire (provided you weren't looking) and then showed up to change it for you.

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    3. LOL Bama...now I know you're evil schemes!!! I'm taking notes and am prepared for the worst ;) lol

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  9. You might consider me a creepy old man, except, I don't look creepy, I don't stare at women (except maybe when they are beautiful and they can't see me peeking), I don't talk strangers unless the conversation is completely initiated as a mutual action, and I don't EVER try to touch someone I don't know... hell, I have enough trouble touching the woman I know the best!! I pretty much mind my own business.....and I'm not that old anyway...

    That sounds terrible. Next time call the cops.

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    1. It was awful!!! Noone should ever touch anyone else. After that, I no longer consider you a creeper. Not that I did in the begininng... ;) lol

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  10. Okay - in NYC, I was walking down the street and this guy stopped, started talking to me, GRABBED MY NECK and cupped my face with his hand. What is WITH PEOPLE?!

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    1. Girl, it's NY...I'm telling you!!! Omg, he grabbed your face??? Eep!! I may have kneed him in the huevos rreeeaaalll harddd. It's a whole different game when you're out of the protection of your car.

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  11. I am so sorry this happened to you, Jax. You did exactly the right thing - you took off. While many of us (women), would love to say, "I would have stayed and kicked his butt and gotten his license plates and blah blah blah" no one ever knows until they are put into that kind of situation. Safety first, always!!

    All of my creepers were in your neck of the woods too and yet I still love the place, go figure =)

    My first groping was on the subway at age 14 (?) - I told my teacher but nothing happened to the guy because he denied it.

    I got flashed by the same guy for weeks when I was around 15 - he thought it was funny to flash random girls around town while we walked to get there. He got caught and arrested.

    My last was in a bar in Louisiana. Some drunk guy thought I'd be okay grabbing my butt and then grinding on me and saying some raunchy stuff so I punched in the jimmies and walked away. Hopefully, he won't do that to another woman.

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    1. Omg, Elsie!!!! You're like a pro with this. That's crazy how many times it has happened to you. Well, now that I'm thinking about it, there has been a few scenarios with me that are a little worse but I don't feel comfortable sharing them. Men are pigs!!!!!

      Kudos you to for punching him in the jimmies!!!!

      One time I was in a car with a guy on a date. That's when he exposed himself to me and instructed me to do naughty things. When I refused he pushed my head and said "I hate girls like you. You pretend to respect yourself on the first date when you know you ain't gon be respectin yourself on the second date. Why make me wait?" I hit him as hard as I could and got out of the car. My father took care of that one. It was the viking's barber at the time!!!

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    2. Good for you, Jax!!! And, even better for your dad!!!! Sounds like my dad and my FIL - kicking some butt and protecting their baby girl from the creeps out there! *gack*

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  12. I remember in high school it seemed like just because you were in high school it was a free zone as far as society's laws about physically assaulting someone were concerned. Everyday I got hit, and punched walking down the hall. There was this one kid that looked like a giant rodent who kept stabbing me in the butt with a compass at lunch time. There was this black dude that would try to give me what are called "titty twisters" all the time, although I didn't have man boobs. Anyway, after your experience you might want to consider buying a pepper spray key chain online. You could have blasted that guy, and taught him a lesson.

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    1. Omg, that's crazy!!!! You should have kicked those guys butts!!! Got all your friends and attacked. I'm sorry that you went through that.

      Pepper spray key chain? Didn't even know they made those...are they legal or am I going to get "busted"?

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    2. They're very legal, but I think you possibly might have to register them with the police department (depending on the laws where you live). I always meant to get one, in case I ever got attacked by a pit bull walking home with loved ones... But since I don't have any loved ones, it doesn't really matter if I get mauled to death by a pit bull, so I never bothered to order one.

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  13. That's creepy as hell, too bad you didn't run over his toe when you were driving away.

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    1. Yes, I totally should have run him over. The guy freaked and jumped into a trunk. His feet were clear!!

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  14. LOL I agree with Matt, too bad you couldn't have ran over his toe. Of course then he would sue and blame everything one you.

    Agree with Dez too, you sure have the creeper luring scent all over you or something hahaha

    But yeah did the right thing as the cops wouldn't have done much anyway and he'd be long gone by the time they got there. Should get yourself a taser hahaha, but then you'd prob taser yourself or some poor random person or your computer hahahaha

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    1. LOL He probably would sue and he probably would win. America for you!!

      Oh my! Creeper lurking scent?? Get it off, get it off!!!!!

      I don't think that the cops would have done much either. My mom said why didn't you take a picture of the liscence plate? Yea, b/c that's where my mind headed....

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    2. Yeah I wouldn't doubt he'd win. And if your 30 kinds of shampoo can't get the creeper scent off, I don't know what will hahaha you were too busy yapping on the phone to use it to take a pic anyway hahaha

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    3. LOL Yes, my shampoo collection should be able to do quite the job for my groped head. For the love of god...

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  15. um, ew. that is beyond creepy- who in their right mind would touch your hair? ew, ew, ew.

    I can't think of a good story involving me right now but one time coincidentally in Vegas, my little brother and I were leaving the pool. I was 16 so he was about 10. This realllllllly drunk guy came up to us and I was just thinking.. great... assuming I would be getting the brunt of it. He started talking to me and I was like, "okay cool, i gotta get my brother upstairs now" and he turns to my brother and was like "hey little man!" and high-fives him. Then he goes "do you know what it's like to kiss a dude?" and leaned down to my brother. At which point, I shoved him, told him to back up and hurried upstairs.

    I dont think he was like a sex offender or anything like that but it was so creepy and I always wish I had done a little more. Needless to say when I got upstairs and told my Dad, he was a little more than peeved about it.

    PS on Sky Mall there are the car eyelashes and my friend pointed them out to me. I said "Oh! I know someone with those, they're cute" hahah.

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    1. Omg!!!!!!! I can't believeeee that!! Good for you for defending your brother. That guy deserved a huge shove! What do you mean he wasn't a sex offender?? He has sex offender written all over him!!

      Ohh, I loveee that!!! They are cute, they are!!! hahaha

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  16. *shiver* I would have bent all the fingers back on his hand and broke them. Gross.

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    1. Ohh, i wish that I was strong enough to do it to the freak!

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  17. I had a peeping Tom who was taking the screen off my window, when an off duty cop caught him! Scary.

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    1. Omg, are you serioussss?!?!?!?!? What's wrong with people!!

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  18. OMG, I would have totally freaked out too, but in any case I would hoped that my inner kick-ass would have switched on! Can't believe he had the audacity to reach in and touch your hair - ugh! That is just NOT on. There sure are lots of creepy peeps out there, but I'm glad you drove off - hope you had the doors locked lady!
    Sounds mean, but i also hope you ran over his foot too.
    x.o.x.o

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    1. Oh, I wish my kick ass kicked on!! I needed it!! What a freak. Who does that?! I did have the doors locked :) Thank goodness!!! Unfortunately, I didn't run over his foot :(

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  19. I had a guy grab me by the bum once while I was at the perfume counter. I went into a white hot rage and the next thing I remember was the police pulling me off him. He argued with the police and they asked him "Would you rather go with us or would you rather we give you back to her" He went with the cops.

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    1. too bad they didn't give him back to you, Annzie :(

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    2. Anne, this is the best comment today!!! You attacked him?? Oh my! I knew you were one of my idols :) Did you do some damage?? Too funny what the police asked him!!!

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  20. What an awful experience! I hate so bad that this happened to you! I don't have any similar stories, and It's just creepy and horrible, and I'm glad you're okay. Driving off was probably for the best, but running him over first may have made for a better blog post!

    You washed your hair right after you got home right? I mean, it's your hair, Jax, which for you, is like the worst place you can be groped, right?!?

    Seriously, I'm glad you're ok!

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    1. Thanks, Ray! You're totally right. At least SOMEONE gets me. My hair is one of the worst spots for me to get groped!! It's just awful. It still feels dirty. Maybe I should see someone about this... ;) lol

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  21. That's probably how I would have reacted too. haha

    I was grabbed inappropriately by some guy my age and I totally flipped my shit. I started screaming and cursing at him to the point he was cowering against the wall and I had him convinced my mom's cop friends were going to press a sexual harassment charge on him if he ever came near me again. (He never came near me again. Neither did his friends who witnessed the incident. lol)

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    1. Glad to hear that I'm not the only one that would have reacted this way!!! Oh wowww...look at you girl! Scare him and he'll never bother you again ;)

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  22. Yeah, it's hard to think clearly in a situation like that. Ugh ...bet you washed your hair with both shampoos that night! lol....

    If it were to happen again and you were prepared....you should have written down the lic plate number of the SUV...and called the cops. But like I said...hard to think clearly under stress. My dad was a cop, so I have these things ingrained in me. haha.

    Glad you're ok! So gross!

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    1. also forgot to say that it's dangerous to be on your cell while pumping gas.....some phones that light up when they ring or a text comes in, can spark and cause a fire from the gas fumes! Be careful!

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    2. Good advice, Betsy!!! I definitely should have remembered the liscense plate and called the cops. That's what my mom said but I couldn't think straight. I was just worried about my hair!!! Blehhh nastyyy!!!

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    3. It's hard to think under pressure! And your own safety is the most important thing at the time. But still...Good Gosh...that was gross! What a creep!

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  23. HA HA HA...I don't mean to laugh but at the point where he stroked your hair I thought I might be love. Are you sure you can't give that guy another chance? A good man IS hard to find.

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    1. LOL You really think it's love??? Ohh, I should have known!! I still think he was just a freaskshow though ;) lol

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    2. But I was always told that a 'freakshow' is JUST the kind of guys the best girls think they can change.

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  24. I'm not a young woman, so my chance of that kind of situation happening to me is slim. There's just so many douchebag losers trying to pick up women. I'd like to have a daughter one day, but I'd worry about those idiots like that when she grows up. If I had a boy I wouldn't have to worry so much. There's not as many bad women as there are bad men.

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    1. I think that if a woman was to do that to a man, that the man would enjoy it!! lol Seriously though, there are some real sick people and everyone needs to be on their guard!!

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  25. oh Jax you always have funny stories:))
    I has a terrible story last sunday but is a little longer:(

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    1. Tell us, tell us!!!! We could use some more juice on my page ;) lol

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  26. that is not cool. What a fruit cake. You should have put the car in drive, get a safe distance, locked the car up with you still inside, and called the police. Freaks like that need to be dealt with by people with handcuffs

    And not the fun kind.

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    1. No, it's totally not cool at all :( Fruit cake? Jerk off? Moron?? LOL They are all too nice for the creep!!!

      I should have, but I totally didn't think rationally. I just though of how I just got molested and freaked out!!!

      Fun kind of hand cuffs? Boww chica bow woww!! hahaha

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  27. Wow, sorry that happened to you Jax. He is lucky he did not get a broken nose or at least a mouth full of pepper spray. That would have had a lasting impact on loser guy.

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    1. Slam!! You're back!!! We missed you :)

      I should have given him a mouth full of pepper spray. Where do you get it from? I need to do some research!!

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  28. It's so easy to get overwhelmed when someone does something inappropriate like that. I think I would have freaked out too.

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    1. Yea, freak out is an understatement!! lol

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    1. I don't have any!!! I don't even know where to get it :( :( I did have a mini bottle of hairspray with me. Would that have worked?

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  30. OMG i totally understand that you panicked and fled!!! :(
    what a horrible experience. what a disgusting man! shame on him for being so gross.
    i think i would´ve probably reacted the same way... and thank God i can´t think of something similar happening to me. i remember once i was riding the train to go to uni and it was really full of people! therefore not much space to move, and this disgusting man was like leaning on me in a totally inappropriate way. at one point i started pushing him away with my elbows and glaring at him but it was certainly a veery uncomfortable situation. and like you i didn´t dare to scream at him and "fight back".

    boohoo!
    i´m glad you´re okay Jax!!!!
    XO Jannine

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    1. Right? What is it that stops us from doing what we would normally do? If I wasn't caught off guard, I wouldn't have thought nothing of punching the guy in the face or at least kneeing him where it hurts!! Next time, I'll be prepared ;)

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  31. Oh Jax, that's awful!! I'm glad he didn't do anything stupid and you're OK. I know what you mean about panicking though.

    I did something similar when a stranger decided to show me his private parts, uninvited. I ran away, scared out of my mind. I was in shock and didn't even think of telling the police.

    Anyway, I'm sorry about your experience.

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  32. Being a guy when someone acts out of line I just punch them, and if I saw someone being all creepy with a stranger I'd punch them too!

    I wish you'd called the cops, but in moments like that its important to think about your safty first.

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  33. Ugh. Horrible. Glad you were ok. As long as you got away from him, that's the main thing. People are strange.

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  34. Terrible. That dude must have been drunk. Hell, I shouldn't defend that dude. That guy was a creep, period.

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