Last week Cousin and I sat down for dinner at my grandparents house.
Right before we began to eat, my God Son exclaimed "I love you mommy!".
Those four simple words triggered a huge discussion to explode across the dinner table.
...and by explode I mean my family is very, very loud...
|See, we totally L-WORD each other :) :)|
Growing up my parents never said I love you to me or Brother.
Cousin never heard it from her mother nor did we ever hear it from our grandparents.
Don't get me wrong, I know that we all love each other, but it's something that we never say.
We express our love with actions, but never actually say the words.
Besides, showing someone you love means way more, right???
That being said, we developed a slight fear of the word "love" itself.
My ex and I would refer to it as the "l-word" and it still made me uncomfortable.
This is going somewhere...I swear I'm not trying to spill a therapy session on you guys!!
My cousin decided to end this cold hearted tradition by enforcing the L word into her son.
Now they say "I love you" every morning when they wake up and at night before bed time.
Super cute, but it still makes me wrinkle my nose in awkwardness. Just sayin!!
This got us thinking.
Are we weird because we don't use the word "love"?
Is this effecting our current or future relationships?
Does everyone else in the world say I love you to friends and family?
...so many questions left unanswered!
Papa thinks it makes us soft and is just unnecessary to say.
Nanny thinks that she shows it way better than she is at telling it.
My cousin thinks we've been mentally scarred for life.
I think that it's meaningless. Anyone can say anything, but people can only act the truth.
...and this is where you all come in...
Do you use the words "I love you" or do you just show it?