Wednesday, June 27, 2012

Dating: Money & Status


I have this habit of dating blue collar men.
My exes are typically maintenance men and electricians.
There's just something hot about a man who knows how to use his hands!

I've tried dating accountants and financial advisors but it never works out.
They were always boring and talking about boring things such as IPO and the stock market.
Ok, so I totally had to Google IPO the first time I heard a guy mention it...

I was discussing this with my girlfriend recently.
She went on to lecture me about "limiting myself" and "being able to do better".
While I get that money is important, blue collar workers are still capable of bringing it in.
Maybe I am biased.  My father, The Viking, is a shoe repair man that always pays his bills!

The bottom line to this little story is that everything comes down to money and social class.

To me, only dating men that have high paying jobs would be limiting oneself.
To others, dating men without a 6 figure income is an immediate limit to oneself.
How about eliminating both and just date a bum that doesn't work at all?  No?  Ok...

Do you consider income and social status when dating?


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88 comments:

  1. I suppose it is in the back of my mind and such, as I would never date a bum. But really as long as she has a job and isn't a lazy arse, I'm not too picky with that. Of course there are some jobs that would turn me off, like say a hooker..lmao....or one of those make up people who load it on to demonstrate and crap like that, just no.

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    1. I agree...a bum is something different. As long as someone is going out there to do something with their life, I'm good. I like ambition, not a million dollar signs!

      Besides, there's something about a guy who could actually fix a car or the kitchen sink as opposed to paying a professional.

      LOL What do you mean load it on to demonstrate?? Like a tupperware party woman?

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    2. ha ha,ha, loke a tupperware Jax! I remember that my mom had someones at home!!

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    3. LMAO yeah those are the ones, like what Flappy does, she really set the bar on scary for those people hahaha

      I could fix the sink, I'd go buy a brand new one, there you go, fixed..hahaha

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    4. oooh..Pat...I guy with options! :)

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    5. LOL Options?? Ohh, that could be intriguing :) lol

      What's wrong with tupperware salesmen? That sounds like a fun job!! Think of all the people you get to meet . lol

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  2. Oh Jsc/bubbles lol! I think this theme when i see dates now, personally I never think in that when I like a man never think if he has money; for me a man have to be fun,nice,tender and lovely dont need more lol

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    1. I totally agree with you!! I mean, as long as he is able to support himself and is motivated, I'm good. I could never date a guy that just sits on a couch and lets his life pass him by. Fun, nice, and TENDER?? Yes, please!

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    2. yes but I think a tender man is really strangue in tthis world we live LOL

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    3. Ohh, but tender I will find... lol

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  3. I don't mind what my guy does just so long as he's doing something. Even if that means a Walmart greeter, as long as he's happy. If he's happy, then he'll come happy and then I'll be happy and we'll be happy together. Then we can always rob banks together to make ends meet as couple time. LOL

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    1. I just noticed your sexy new pic too! Oh la la!!

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    2. Im agree you look sexy and nice dear Jax!!

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    3. Walmart greeter?? Yikes!!! You're right though...as long as he's happy then I'm happy. That's the most important part.

      Thanks ladies, glad that you like the picture!! I just wanted to show off my new hair color ;) lol

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    4. Well I for one am diggin' your summer color!

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    5. is more dark Jax?? you know I dont have now my read glasses LOL but you look nice!

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    6. Aw, thank you!!

      Yes, it's darker. I dyed it back to my natural hair color. :) No more red head for meee.

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  4. I don't mind what she does as long as shes not a hooker like Pat said. Would be preferable if she enjoyed her job too so shes not stressed out and complaining about it all the time haha.

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    1. Geez you two are against hookers? Why?! LOL

      Great point! If someone is unhappy with their employment they may become unhappy with their life. You spend more time at work than anywhere else.

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  5. When it comes to dating, I think it's desirable to choose your date based on the feelings/affections you could develop with him/her, not based on his/her educational background or income.
    It's possible for a guy with low educational background or a job involved in physical labor or even socially regarded as miserable to date a woman with great educational background and a job in a big corporate.
    That's what I think.

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    1. Very well put! Feelings and affections should always come first. When did material things start overcoming emotions? I think it's ridiculous and shallow!

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  6. For sure I do not. I want someone who is my friend, who is good to me and other people, and obviously who I find attractive. I wouldn't want a guy to judge me because I don't have a lot of money (which I don't!) or a fancy career (again, nope!), so I don't see why it should be any different the other way around.

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    1. I love that you said "someone who is my friend". Isn't it important to develop a friendship with someone before a relationship could blossom? Very well put, lady! I totally agree with you. A paycheck or fancy career does not measure a man's substance.

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  7. I may sound shallow, but I would never could go for guys who limit themselves ie blue collar guys or lazy folks. Rich guys and overly handsome werent my type and somehow I never liked them.
    I always wanted to marry a smart guy not necessarily rich but who can become one if he wanted to and who respects woman(me kind of feminist ;-)) and wanted to marry an engineer, maybe doctor, but doctor wouldnt be practical for my lifestyle and the one my mom was pushing on me, not father of my child material, so I had to run away, kinda literally.
    I cant stand dumb, lazy guys, oh god! such a turn off.
    If he is a confident,non-complaining, smart, hardworking dude, always a yes even if he doesnt have a job :)
    And the thing which shall irk me more is, in one corner - guys from my workplace and college and acquaintances would be very much interested in me, whereas the prospects through parents (arranged marriage) ones, oh my, they humiliated me to be core. They wont have steady job, no proper college degree, ugly, poor, yet he and his family would call me short and why I didnt study in IIT(similar to Ivy league) and why I was darkskinned. Horrible episode Jax, dont dust those. :(

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    1. I do not think that you sound shallow. It also sounds like your situation varies quite differently than my situation. To each their own and I respect everyone's opinion. Besides, who's to say who is right or wrong? I'm glad that in the end everything worked out for you :)

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    2. Thank you Jax. You are sweet.
      Worked out?! maybe. Anyway now I cant blame anyone but me for making that choice :)

      BTW, your new profile pic rocks. :)

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  8. I started dating my husband in college and I had no idea what either of us would end up doing! Careers change, but what makes people who you love hopefully will always stay the same.

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    1. Oh, that's adorable. I totally love that!!

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  9. Hmmm good question. I think the main thing for me is that he's active in some way. However, I am attracted to ambition - something about it really turns me on ;-) Basically, if a guy is energetic and strong, then he definitely doesn't need to be rich! I'm drooling as I type this lol.

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    1. Yes, very true!! If a man is sitting on his lazy ass all damn day, I'm not interested. But, if a man is busting his ass trying to make something of himself, I'm good. Ambition is a very good thing!! Energetic and strong?? Oh yum!! With big, strong, man hands??? Double yum!!!

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  10. Well, considering that I am a southern blue blood and have never had to worry about money and came from 4 generations of obscene wealth, education and political prominence, having graduated from the Univ. of Cambridge, I would say that I will only love for love itself as someone's social or monetary status has no true meaning to me. Without love, life is worthless, to have made the journey and never truly loved, well, you haven't lived at all. Should you be interested, I will have my pilot come pick you up after work and we can dine in Atlanta and I will have him promptly fly you back.

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    1. Ohhh, your own personal pilot! Dine in Atlanta? I've never been to Atlanta. Intriguing... lol

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  11. I have always dated people who make less than me. ALWAYS. I attract the artsy types. Men who write or do photography and work menial jobs to make rent. I learned recently that doesn't work for me anymore. The new fella makes about 20,000 a year more than I do. It happened on accident, but it's a damn good accident. I don't want men to pay for me, but I don't want to pay for them either. It's nice to be with someone who can pay the bill one time and I pay the next.

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    1. Oh, sounds like a great catch!!! hahahaha

      Goes to show that finances can be an issue down the line, but everyone should be given a chance :) There's no point in limiting your options based on income levels and class. This has been a great discussion!!

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  12. When I start dating it's not income or social status, but more of drive, goals, and maturity. When it came down to it, I knew M was the one because we have a similar drive and wants for our future. It didn't matter what field it was in, it was just that he wants success for himself and for me. I don't think social status or job were ever factors when I was looking for my other half.

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    1. Maturity is something that I haven't heard someone mention yet, but it's a point! Maturity is a huge factor when it comes to a relationship. No one wants an immature man, but, at the same time a guy can totally be TOO mature. :)

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  13. I simply consider the "put out factor" and if she DOES, I usually involve my income at that point, and pay the bitch afterwards....

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    1. Oh, Heff!!!! I'm going to pretend I didn't hear that ;) lol

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  14. In the past, I dated a variety of men, both blue and white collar. They all turned me off, so now I date none. And for once, I'm happy. Lol

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    1. LOL There you go!! You're definitely a problem solver ;)

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  15. For me, it really boils down to how I meet the guy. And I've really only dated white collar "type" guys because those are the ones I meet because of friends or co-workers. But I wouldn't rule someone out because of that - I have dated an unemployed person before!

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    1. I couldn't handle dating an unemployed person without a severely legitimate reason to why they are unemployed. To me that screams "helllooo there sugar mammaaa!!" and I'm not game. lol

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  16. A few years ago I tried online dating, and I met this one girl (thankfully never in person) and she was jobless and out of school. And she was surprisingly busy for a girl with no job or school or so she said. She actually went to my high school, so I sometimes see her profile on fb via other friends when she comments on them. 2 years later still no job.

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    1. Eep!!! Sounds like she didn't want a job ever. Maybe she's a great housewife ;) LOL

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  17. i'm good with my hands, i have long fingers which serves me well when i play the organ.

    anything? any connection yet?

    i'm in love with your new profile pic

    something? anything? any chemistry between us?

    oh wait, i got it, you'll fall for me now:

    i'm doing the Aaron Hernandez making-it-rain hand motion right now as i type...

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    1. Oh my!!! Teasing me with Aaron Hernandez??? I'm not sure anyone else could pull off his signature move like he does ;) lol

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  18. I don't really care about how much a woman makes. When it comes to her financial/work situation I only look at two things. Ambition and potential. I don't mean potential as in "future potential earnings" but in her potential to accomplish things. I am a very ambitious person. Not just professionally but in all aspects of a life. I would prefer to be with a woman who has a goal and is actively working towards that. The end goal doesn't have to be a high paying career. Just something that will make her happy. I would honestly prefer to be with someone that worked for low pay but was still happy than be with someone that makes crazy money but is constantly stressed about work and can't enjoy life.

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    1. Ambition and potential are great things to look for. Who cares what she does as long as she's doing something?! There's a difference between someone who makes a low income and someone who's a lazy moocher!! Great answer :)

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  19. Hey, blue collar men can always get a job. And the electric always works!

    Just passing through. Hope you don't mind...

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    1. Exactly!!! You can pass through anytime :)

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  20. LOVE your new gorgeous profile pic!!! I know you don't like Mob Wives, but after reading your post I just had to leave you with this famous comment from one of the gals on the show when asked if she would rather date a legitimate guy or a wise guy, "I like wise guys 'cause they always gonna be able to support the family ya know. Legit guys get outta work and you're screwed". LOL!!!!!

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    1. Ohh, thank you!! You guys are making me blush :)

      Oh, that's too funny!! So you're sticking with the wise guys?? I should have put a third option up there. Damn... lol

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  21. there are a lot of things that mean more than a salary amount. I'd rather have mature, sweet and romantic over a stuck up rich guy. Having said that...he has to be able to pay the bills...being horribly in debt is not a good way to live.

    new photo...lovely, dear!

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    1. I totally agree with you!!! Stuck up rich men can shove it up their stuck up you know whats...Oh, that wasn't very nice. I'm sorry!! lol

      Debt is awful. I totally agree with you. As long as they are able to support themselves, everything is perfect :)

      Thank you!!

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    2. oh, I think Petsy just described moi LOL :)

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  22. Money immediately makes a man more attractive. I would like someone to fall for me THEN tell her I have money. Then it's a win/win for anyone. Women have to remember that when a guy has money and she doesn't, she can be replaced in a minute. I would rather not have that hanging over my relationship.

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    1. I disagree. I don't think money makes a man attractive at all. I'm more attracted to a man that know how to use his hands and get the job done.

      If you have money, your method does seem like one of the best ways to go about it. :)

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  23. I've just always been attracted to men with strong work ethics. My dad always had one and it is just something I knew I wanted in a partner. I never really thought about the pay. I just wanted someone that wasn't afraid to work hard for their dreams.

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    1. Strong worth ethics are extremely important. I totally agree with you girl!!

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  24. I certainly would NEVER date a man who doesn't have a six figure income.

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    1. Oh, Michael!!!! Do you, do you!! hahahaha

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    2. Pfft, I'm lucky to get a FIVE figure income.

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    3. Pfft, I'm lucky to make a FIVE figure income. Choosing to work in the entertainment industry mean living a life of relative poverty.

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  25. I've never considered anything like that. If it also means anything, I've never considered anything like that when making friends either. A good person who I will like, is a good person, whether they find themselves unemployed and unpopular or rich and famous.

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    1. A good person is the key to evertyhing. How can a relationship/friendship blossom with someone if deep down you can't stand each other? No thanks...lol

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  26. great post. I wouldn't discount someone because they were a blue collar worker. Honestly, as long as they're motivated and work hard- that's great for me.

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    1. Thanks, Caitlin! Right? So they are a blue collar worker, who careS? They wake up every morning and bust their butt. Hard worker can come in all different types.

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  27. If you date a tradie (Australian slang for tradesman - oh yeah, we're real original) in Australia, it is likely they are pulling the big buck. We have a massive skills shortage in Oz, plus still in a mining boom, and a good tradie is hard to come by.

    Sometimes they rae a little more down to earth and work in the real world. I.e. not have their head up their arse. Which is handy to have a conversation, unless you like the sound of their voice muffled.

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    1. Ohhh, a tradie!! Geez, I'm practically an Australian after talking to your two ;) I'm learning the lingo!! lol

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  28. I think it's silly. Honestly what really matters is if the guy has a job! I'm not saying go marry a fast food worker that doesn't even have the ambition to run the store but in our economy a guy that has a job is doing ok. Also it's not his JOB that matters so much it's more of WHO he is. Does he have a sense of humor? Is he nice? Does he have a bad temper? Will he treat you with respect? Those are the kinds of things to look for girl. Looks and money are to easily spent. Look inside.
    Oh by the way. I'm running a name my book contest. Four letter word PG of course and the last word has to be Nonsense. Winner gets a mention in said book and a copy of course. I'll have the names up for people to vote for them in a couple of days so make sure you enter girly.

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    1. I 100% completely agree with you, chica!! There is no such thing as limiting yourself when you're open to all different opportunities.

      Ohh, I'll make sure to enter :)

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  29. I definitely consider income and social class when dating. Perhaps not as much social class as much as the person needs to be from a good family. Even though this is not a dealbreaker, parents and siblings with a history of criminal activities and drug use would be a turn off. Whether or not your family is well known in the Hampton (stereotypical) does not matter.

    As far as income, I definitely want a man who has reasonable hours and either earns more than me or at most 10% less than me. I think both of us should be able to take care of ourselves and a combined salary should make our living just more comfortable. While I understand that some of the men who are COOs and make six figure salaries built themselves up from that background, I think that background is just too different from mine.

    PS. I'll tell you how to melt tarts. Stay tuned. Oh. And I gave you the Sunshine Award, because topics like this always make me think and bring a smile to my face.

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    1. Ok, so you're in the middle! Fair enough...you want their salary to be comparable to yours. But does their type of work have any impact on your judgement of them as "relationship material"?

      Omg, you're amazing!!! I'm heading over there right now to check it out ;)

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  30. Blue collar workers can definitely bring home the bacon! Have you seen how much it costs to hire a plumber or an electrician these days? I'm pretty sure they make more money than any white collar worker I know!

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    1. I completely agree with!! My ex was for 3 years was an electrician and he brought home the dough! That's not why I liked him though. Besides, I really admired his ability to get down and dirty ;) lol

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  31. it's not at all about the money but whether you share life principles and goals and opinions with a blue collar worker or with a professional.... I'd date any of them if they have the same brain as me does :)
    Off course, both groups are very usable in the sex department too :) We already said once we're not picky....

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    1. LMAO You won best comment, Dez! Love this ;)

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  32. i don´t think it´s important how much money that person earns... what´s important is if he is passionate about what he does and you admire and look up to him. i think that it´s kind of natural to gravitate towards someone of your same social status because it´s easier to see eye to eye with and you´ll probably have similar values and goals.
    so, as long as you feel a special connection, and he has some kind of project/job that at least gives him a decent living i think it´s more than enough...
    after all... when we die we can´t take any of the stuff we have with us.. so it´s a matter of the experiences you had and how you enjoyed your life. so choosing the right soulmate i think should be more important than choosing someone because of their financial status. and you never know what might happen... life is full of surprises and economy is never certain. so yeah, you get my point!
    :)

    p.s: i think you could totally rock some white pants! if you feel a bit self conscious you can layer them with a flowy top and some wedges that will help you look a bit skinnier and taller! :)

    XO!
    Jannine
    http://fashionistArg.blogspot.com

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  33. If you're really looking to make a class statement when you date, you should just hook up with struggling writers. No money, zero class.

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  34. I don't think money or any of that matters if the person is awesome.

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