Monday, April 16, 2012

Where To Take A Date Dilemma!

Happy Monday Everyone!
I hope you all had a wonderful weekend.

Last Wednesday, I published a post talking about different potential dinner date disasters.
The discussion on this topic was great!  I cracked up at your responses while learning so much!
That's when the talented Youngman Brown made a great point that I promised to talk about.
Have you checked out his page?  You should.  He cracks me up every single time!

"Another tough thing, at least for guys, is figuring out where to go. I typically like to let the girl pick the time, and I pick the place. The only thing that sucks is figuring out what type of place is appropriate. It is also tough if you are not familiar with the area that the woman lives."

Here are 10 tips to help the gentlemen figure out where to take a lady on their first dinner date!

1.  Ethnicity
Avoid taking your lady to a place that only serves food consistent with her heritage.
I promise you that no Italian restaurant will ever compete with my grandma's meatballs!

2.  Strip Clubs
Ever seen My Best Friend's Girl?  Well you should.  It's a great example of what not to do.
Just avoid strip club dinners at all costs.  No, they are not even ok for just a drink.
Think classy and sophisticated, not a show that could act as a potential distraction for a bad date.
3.  Adventure
If you are unfamiliar with the area, go online for some tangible references.
Quickly explain to your date that you want to try a new place and experience it together.
This way you aren't held responsible if the restaurant is terrible.
Besides, who doesn't love a man of adventure?  Yum!

4.  Options
Pick a place that's famous for more than one type of food.
Preferably a place that can cook up a great fish, a great vegetarian dish, or a great steak.
I mean, we're women.  We're fickle and love options!

5.  Lighting
Lean towards a place that has decent lighting.
Many people mistake a candle lit atmosphere for romance.
For the love of God, some places are so freaking dark that it actually strains my eyes. Why?!

6.  Music
Some restaurants are so loud that you need to yell to be heard.
Pick a place that nourishes great conversation.
Especially for us ladies that love to yap!

7.  Rush
There is nothing more annoying then when a restaurant is trying to get you out of there.
Pick a place that has a reputation for allowing a couple to enjoy their meal and drinks.
A great glass of white wine is meant to be sipped, not chugged.

8.  Dress Code
Make sure you give your date an idea of the atmosphere.
I mean, who wants to walk into Applebees wearing a cocktail dress and spike heels?

9.  Comfortable
Pick a place where you are comfortable.
If you know that spicy food makes your stomach turn, try to avoid it.
If the restaurant is in a bad area that will have you worried about your parked car, stay away!
A comfortable man usually makes for a comfortable lady.  Just sayin...

10.  Hotels
Stay away from restaurants in a hotel.
I mean, really.  You know where our mind is automatically going to go...

Well, I hope that helps gentleman.
There are 10 tips of how to pick a place to take your first date.

Come on, ladies!  Let's help em out!
How you do pick where to take a first date?

57 comments:

  1. I'm tellin' ya girl, you need to write a "guide to dating book". Since it's been 27 years since I have gone on a date, I can't comment except to say I remember one date where the guy opened up the ketsup, which was spoiled and it exploded all over my silk shirt and white pants. Ketsup in my hair and all over my face. YEA, make sure the ketsup is not spoiled on a date fo' sho!!!!

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    1. Omg, that ketchup thing made me laugh!!! Spoiled ketchup explodes?? Noted!! hahahaha

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  2. It needs to serve alcohol. Don't forget about that! :P

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    1. Ohh, I could never forget about that ;)

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  3. note to my future fans and suitors :) Me has nothing against being taken to a strip club, especially if Channing Tatum and Alex Pettyfer are performing in it, preparing themselves for MAGIC MIKE movie :)

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    1. Well, THAT kind of strip club is fine by me too. Do they actually prepare for those things. If so, I may need to show up for that performance. :)

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    2. it's actually Channing's biopic :) He was a stripper at the beginning of his career and now Steven Soderbergh is making a film about it with all kinds of hunk in the cast from Channing himself and Pettyfer to Matt Bomer and Joe Manganiello and Matthew McConaughey, who will all be stripping :)

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    3. Yeah, me too! What does Dez know that we don't Jax?? He does seem to find the best pics, huh??

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    4. @Dez...Matthew McConaughey and Channing Tatum stripping?? Oh my!! You can count on me going to see that in the theaters more than once. I mean, that has to be experienced on the big screen!!!! lol

      @Elsie...His pictures are steamy!!! We're going to have to find his source. I mean, some of them deserve to put plastered on my wall!

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    5. you can see the first pics here, ladies :)
      http://hollywood-spy.blogspot.com/2012/01/cool-new-pics-from-channing-tatums.html

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  4. I need more than 10 tips to help me... I need an entire encyclopedia.

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    1. Well, that would be a very long post ;) I'll let you know about an encyclopedia. LOL

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  5. I ususally cook for them. One of my favorites is asparagus stuffed chicken breast, bacon wrapped, cut into medallions and covered with an alfredo sauce, then peeled whole potato's thinly sliced but left whole and baked with a butter and garlic and parmesian drizzle, baked until the edges are slightly crisp. I forgot the other crap but I could wing it.

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    1. Ohh that sounds delicious!! And now I'm hungry...yum!!

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  6. haha I like the adventure one as if it sucks not my fault, but then the woman will find a way to make it my fault anyway..haha

    Can't say I ever even thought of taking a date to a strip club, suppose that is a good thing. More than one food works for me and hotels..LMAO...and where would your mind automatically go?..hahaha...maybe it's just good food there..haha

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    1. LOL That's not true!!! The woman would probably laugh if it was awful and chalk it off to an experience. hahaha

      Did you ever see My Best Friend's Girl? Oh, I love that movie. So raunchy, but so funny!!! hahahaha

      LMAO Well, idk...where do you think my mind would go. I mean, you took a girl to a HOTEL for crying out loud. She ain't gonna be thinking about the food. She's going to be think which room the guy has reserved for later. LOL!!!!! That could either go really well, or really bad.

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    2. Riiiight! I guess it depends on how the date went. If they liked you then it wouldn't be so bad but if they didn't then the guy would get all the blame...haha...one day down the road they would use it against you anyway, so we can't win...lol

      Nope another one you got me on, haven't seen that one with all my movie watching. Stinkin writing interrupting my movie time..haha

      hahahaha well it could be worth it to see if one can get to the really well side of things. After all if she doesn't leave and has fun you know she could be willing...hahaha...more testing crap haha

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    3. I disagree with that! There is no blame to be had if you're both experiencing it for the first time. If she had such a problem with that, she should've opened up her mouth and suggested something better!! LOL!!

      Really? Oh, that one's great. You really need to see it.

      LMAO, I would leave or wouldn't show. A hotel restaurant? I'm gonna call the dude a "perv" inside my head and keep on walking.

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    4. LOL well then I guess you better make a list for women too on how to suggest dates or something if they don't like the one they are on or going to, us guys need all the insight we can get...hahaha

      hahahaha just walk out on the poor guy after he had the room all paid for and everything..hahaha

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  7. Strip clubs? I can't even believe that made the list. I've never walked out on a date (and I've been on some pretty terrible ones) but it would definitely happen if that was the date spot

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    1. I only walked out on a date once. Awful! But that would CERTAINLY be a justified reason.

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  8. When I was single, I used to go to clubs like that. You don't often see a guy bring in his date/gf/wife. I saw it happen once (or maybe twice) and the couple looked like a bunch of weirdos. They were middle aged, obese, and didn't look like they took baths.

    It's a shame of how many men go there to cheat (they probably think it's pretend/half cheating) on their partner. I suppose there's nothing wrong going in there, sitting down, and looking but c'mon nobody does just that (unless they're broke) unless they live in some social-conservative county that has an enforced 6 foot rule.


    There was one guy who got drunk in the next town over, and the bouncers threw him on the sidewalk. He later died from being thrown, and it turns out he had a wife and 3 children. That's got to be one embarrassing obituary.

    There's one club that has a little lingerie store inside it. You don't have to go into the floor as it's in the lobby to shop there, but I always chuckle when I think about it because I wonder what the guy says to the girl when she asks where he bought it.

    As for good place ideas for a first date, I'd say something mid-ranged but not overly expensive. Sure something like Garfield's or Golden Corral might not be Olive Garden, but that's just setting high expectations. Which can kill a relationship down the road if the guy is paranoid about impressing her. But something like McDonalds or Burger is like "it just gets worse from here".

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    1. Oh wow, you just gave me a whole new perspective! I had no idea that they were like that :)

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  9. I haven't been on many first dates, usually the guys I date are friends first.

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    1. That's probably you're best bet, but I like the adventure ;)

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  10. Confession One: I watch Millionaire Matchmaker - so sue me! And, I always laugh when the girls show up in high heels and gorgeous dresses and the guys are all "Hey, we're gonna kick box for our date!" It never fails

    Confession Two: While it wasn't a first date...(and now I'm going to blog about it, because it's funny) we did go to a strip club on a date (several dates actually). We knew the owner so the drinks were free. The bar was before you even got to the stages, so it was no big deal.

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    1. Girl, your confessions just made my day!!! I am OBSESSED with Millionaire Matchmaker. How those people make fools outta themselves cracks me up. hahahaha

      I can't wait to read that blog ;)

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    2. Just wrote it!! I toned it down....I didn't want all sorts of obscene comments LOL

      Okay, I'm glad I'm not the only one who watches that junk on TV!

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    3. I just checked it out!! Girl, you are TOO funny.

      Junk? That's not junk...psh...hahaha

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  11. I find that a coffee date is a good first date. That way you aren't stuck sitting through a whole dinner if it isn't going well.

    Dinner is okay but I find it's a better third or fourth date. Although a lot of the time I end up just making a man food for a date. That's how I reel them in. I'm kind of an awesome cook. :)

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    1. I love coffee!! Those are my favorite types of dates too. Plus coffee houses are always so cozy :)

      You are an awesome cook!! I can tell by your page!!

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  12. Jax! Thanks for the shout out and for helping me out on one of the toughest parts of dating!

    I've gotta say, any dude that takes a girl to a strip club has gotta be out of his mind. But I couldn't agree more that a well-lit, relatively quiet place with a large selection is definitely the perfect fit.

    And you just made me add something to my bucket list: showing up at Applebees in a tux with a date who is wearing a cocktail dress.

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    1. No problem!! You know I love making lists ;) LOL

      Right?! You would think that a strip wouldn't need to be listed. LOL

      If you do show up to Applebees in that attire, please take pictures and post all about it. :)

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  13. If only men would take your advice. I don't know why, but men do always think its a great idea to take an Italian girl to an Italian place. Has anyone ever been dumb enough to suggest Olive Garden to you? Do men really take dates to strip clubs these day? Bad form and insulting I would think.

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    1. Oh that's the WORST!!! Thank goodness I can say that I've never gone on a date to an Olive Garden. Although, my friend always insists on going their for her birthday. It's torture. Bleh...lol

      I have been taken to a place similar to a strip club, but the girls never completely stripped. My g/f was taken to a strip club. As if that wasn't bad enough, it was a trashy one. It's very insulting.

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    2. The worst one I've ever been to would probably qualify as trashy. It was in a small building and the room really is small. It kinda was like a really creepy millionaire's basement for a strip club. The stage was about as wide as a ladder, and the private rooms were the size of closets. The funny thing is that there was another one not even 3 miles away that was a million times better, and actually had pretty strict rules enforced by the staff. It was corporate owned, so they took their place seriously.

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  14. I think the Adventure advice is the best! Woman do seem to love adventures!

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  15. these made me laugh!! im paranoid about having food in my teeth!!

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    1. Ohh, me too!! Check your reflection in your knife ;) lol

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  16. very cute and again, such thoughtful content! I was thinking "oh yeah!" for many of these but know that I wouldn't have thought of them on my own.

    I definitely agree with not pigeon-holing a girl based on her heritage. It's pretty persumptive! And if a guy took me to a strip club on a first date, I would honestly think he was kidding. That is the worst idea I've ever heard! I don't mind dark lighting on a first date though, mainly bc I'm awkward and prefer its cloak of mystery, haha.

    Personally for me, a first date would be somewhere I could wear a dress. I wouldn't want to go to somewhere so casual that I feel out of place a little dressed up. Dates are fun and I enjoy feeling pretty for them. Also- I think the guy should pay for everything on the first date. My boyfriend and I regularly split meals and treat one another so I'm not coming from a place where the girl never pays. BUT, with that said- on the first few dates, guys should treat. It's respectful.

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    1. Girl, I love your comments!! It's like you're reading my mind all the time!!

      Men should pay for the first few dates! My family always raised us that the men should pay for anything. I think that's unfair. But, you're right, the first few are real important b/c it shows us some respect :)

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  17. What a great post this woman likes to see what she is eating so candle lite dinners are not for me.........who takes a date to a strip club???????????

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    1. Ohh, those candle lit dinners irk me!!! LOL I can't see a damn thing. And you'd be surprised with the strip clubs!

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  18. You provide an excellent service for us clueless guys here Jax.

    I am trying to remember where I took the Mrs. on the first dinner date. I think I did ok with your rules. It was quiet, not rushed, and I told her the type so she knew the dress code.

    Maybe I saved the strip club until the 2nd date. haha

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    1. Thanks, Slam!!

      2nd date?? Hmmm, I think you should at least give her two solid dates first. LOL But, clearly it worked! haha

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  19. I definitely cringed at number 8. How do you come up with your topics? They're so fun and different.

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    1. LOL I just sit and think. Usually they come up in real life and then I just post them here. :)

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  20. So taking her to the strip club for some Jamaican Jerk Chicken is a BAD idea? You just saved my Friday night.

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    1. Well, thank goodness you have me then. That's a huge no no!!

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  21. Strip clubs and hotels ...
    Imagine your date asking you to break a twenty so he can put a few 'ones' in a g string...
    Whenever i have been on dates i tend to just let the woman choose, since i want it to be nice for her. Im veggie, so that means half my meal will be picked at if she is a meat eater because veggie food is often cooked quicker.
    I took a date to a bowling alley once, and shamed myself by falling right in the lane on my face like some bad cartoon.

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  22. i am with you about italian food. i never want to go to an italian restaurant unless i can order pizza. what's mystifying is that people don't understand this. i say what you said: i've been eating my mother's italian food my whole life. any other version of pasta sauce isn't as good. sheesh.
    strip clubs? sad, but i'm sure there are guys who would do this. honestly, they are masking their vulnerability in a psychotic way doing this. if a guy tried this on a first or second date, time to say goodbye immediately.
    love your lists:)

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